Why You're Not Happy

Updated: Mar 27, 2019

Happiness equals Belief + Actions

“There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do.” —Freya Stark

In your pursuit to be happy, do you find it easily obtainable or elusive? If you are like many of us, you may notice, more often than not, happiness is somewhat hard to achieve. Why is that you ask? The answer is not as complicated as you might think.

Your belief system is what drives you. What you focus on, fixate on, and trust to be true, influences your everyday life far more than anything external. So why then, if you believe eating healthy is good for you, do you continue to eat junk that is bad for you. Only to be unhappy with the albeit bulging results.

The resulting degree of unhappiness is less about the consequences as it is about the conflict between what you believe vs. your actions. Let's assume that your belief is positive, good for you, and the required effort to support the belief won’t bring harm to you or others.

Why Am I Not Happy?

If what you actually do, how you act or behave, or the actions you take, are in direct contrast to (i.e., the opposite of) what you believe, you are not going to be happy. In other words, if you know you should forgive, love, be kind to and care for a family member, but instead, you ignore, mistreat, and speak poorly to or about them, you more than they will be unhappy. Often more unhappy than them.

The key to unlocking your happiness or increasing it may lay with merely ensuring that your actions align with your beliefs. If your action subtracts for your belief, that will not equate to happiness. It’s often no more complicated than that.

How can you change your behavior? Start with a small desire to be happy, then add together your belief and action. They should support each other, not subtract. Continue to build on that foundation until it permeates throughout every possible area of your life where you no longer have to even think about it because it just happens. Be happy.

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